Overcoming Your Limiting Beliefs


You’ve decided to work on overcoming your limiting beliefs. That’s great! It’s a good step forward in your personal growth and development. What do you do next? How do you overcome those limiting beliefs so you can move forward?


Luckily, you’re not the first person to do this. Many other people have gone down this road and had success. The following steps are a tried-and-true way of getting past your limiting beliefs.


  1. Identify Your Limiting Beliefs

    Do you know what your limiting beliefs are? You have to know what your issues are before you can work on overcoming them. If you don’t yet know what they are, you need to sit down and do some self-reflection to identify your limiting beliefs and put them into words. Once you’ve done that, pick one to start working with.

  2. Recognize That It’s Just a Belief

    Whatever the belief is, you need to acknowledge that it’s just a belief. It’s not a law of nature, it’s not immutable or written in stone. It’s just a belief you hold in your mind and nothing more.

  3. Ask Yourself If It’s True

    Is this belief true? Is it always true? For example, if your limiting belief is that you’re not likable, think about the times other people have liked you. Are you always unlikeable? Of course not! Therefore, your limiting belief is wrong.

  4. Thank It for Its Help and Let It Go

    Your limiting beliefs are defence mechanisms that attempt to protect you from emotional harm. That’s what it’s been doing all these years. Thank it for trying to help you and release your hold on it.

  5. Recognize the Underlying Emotion

    All limiting beliefs are driven by an underlying emotion. This emotion is usually but not always fear. You need to identify and learn to deal with that emotion to overcome the limiting belief.

  6. Identify the Negative Consequences of the Limiting Belief

    What are the negative consequences of continuing to hold this limiting belief? Something bad will happen because that’s the nature of limiting beliefs. If you have a limiting belief around rejection, you may never find a romantic partner. If you don’t believe you can succeed, you might never have a successful career. And so forth.

  7. Reframe the Limiting Belief

    It’s time to reframe your limiting belief into something positive. Change it. If the belief is “I’m not likable,” change it to “I’m very likable and can make friends.” If you have a fear of rejection, change it to “Many people will accept me if I try.” Repeat this new belief to yourself over and over until it becomes a mantra.

  8. Act As If the New Belief is True

    Now act as if this new belief is true. Start doing the things you would do if it were true. Gradually, with time, dedication, and hard work, you’ll make your mind believe it.

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