You might not like to admit it, but you have likely been lied to hundreds of times in your life. For the most part, these lies are usually small, inconsequential comments that don’t have much of an impact on your life. However, sometimes these lies hurt or seriously mislead us. Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to spot a lie before it affected your life? Below are nine ways that you can stop a lie before it negatively impacts your life.

• They Have a History of Dishonesty

If you think someone is lying to you, the first thing you should consider is your history with them. Have they lied to you before? Are they typically dishonest? This might not identify them as a liar outright, but it is a red flag to consider.

• Establish a Baseline

One of the biggest indicators someone is lying is when they start acting differently than usual. For example, research shows that lack of eye contact on its own isn’t an indicator of deceit, but if the person normally meets your gaze, then it may be. Watch for out-of-character actions.

• They Use Hand Gestures After They Speak

Many of us use hand gestures as we talk or before we talk, but professionals have noticed that liars tend to make their hand gestures after they have spoken. It is almost as if keeping up with the lie in their head slows down their hand gestures.

• They are Rocking Back and Forth or Fidgeting

If you find that someone is fidgeting back and forth a lot, then they may be lying. Keep in mind there are plenty of reasons a person may be fidgety, including medical issues and shyness. However, if the fidgetiness is out of character, that’s a red flag.

• They Are Overly Vague

A sign someone might be dishonest is if the story they are feeding you is super vague and avoiding any kind of detail. They might be glossing over important details or ignoring others altogether. This vagueness is certainly something to keep an eye out for.

• They Repeat Questions Before Answering Them

This is a classic technique for a liar to buy some more time before they answer. You have likely dealt with this before. Have you ever been part of a conversation like: “Where were you last night?” “Where was I last night?” That last question is likely someone trying to buy some time to think about an answer.

• What Does Their Smile Say?

A fake smile is often a good indication that someone is lying to you. If they are faking the smile, what else are they dishonest about? A good way to spot a fake smile is if the lips are smiling, but it doesn’t reach the rest of their face. A genuine smile reaches a person’s eyes and brows.

• Ask Them a Lot of Questions

Remember we mentioned that liar’s stories are often vague? This is because they don’t want to keep track of the details. Don’t give them a chance. If you think someone is lying to you, ask them questions, and keep asking them. You are likely to catch them red-handed when they get tripped up and forget one of their details. 

• Are They Speaking in a Higher-Pitched Voice?

One potential sign someone is lying is if their voice is higher-pitched than usual. This is easier to notice in someone you already know. If you know they don’t usually talk in a high-pitched voice but are all of a sudden; then you might be listening to a liar.

Do you ever feel a little bit awkward?

If so, don’t worry – you are far from alone. Many people feel a bit socially awkward in certain situations. If you feel awkward now and then, it might be as simple as not picking up on social cues or misunderstanding body language. Whatever the reason, the following nine tips can help you address that awkward feeling once and for all.

1. Get Out of Your Head

This tip is easier said than done, but you need to get out of your head. If you are constantly worried about being awkward, you likely will be. If you find your mind is spiraling with worry and self-doubt, you will struggle in social situations. Try to center yourself, and engage in social situations with an open mind.

• Learn More About Social Norms

A lot of awkwardness comes down to not knowing social norms. You might not have learned these social cues growing up, so it doesn’t hurt to brush up on them. There is no shortage of information on the internet to help you learn more about societal norms and how to react to them.

• Keep Your Phone Handy

Your phone can be your savior in awkward situations. For example, I hate elevator small-talk, so I make sure I am immersed in my phone when someone gets on. You don’t want to be constantly on your phone in social situations, but feel free to use it if it will defuse an awkward situation.

• Don’t Show Up Late

Showing up on time or early to social engagements has two main benefits. First, it gives you time to get used to your surroundings. More importantly, when you show up late, all eyes will be on you, which will certainly exacerbate your awkwardness.

• Put Yourself Out There

If you feel awkward in social situations, you aren’t doing yourself any favors by avoiding them. You need to embrace social engagements as often as you feel comfortable doing so. The more you put yourself out there, the easier it will be to fit in.

• Invite a Close Friend Out With You

Having a close friend with you is a great way to battle your awkwardness. This is especially true if you bring along one of your friends who is socially adept. You can learn from them by mirroring their behavior. Also, it’s nice to have someone trusted you could turn to if things start getting a bit awkward.

• Develop Your Confidence

This is another tip that is a bit easier said than done. However, there are ways you can build up your confidence, and you must do so. A lot of awkwardness is born from a lack of confidence. If you are more confident, you will feel more prepared and less awkward in social situations.

• Ask More Questions

If you are in a conversation that seems to be lagging a bit and bordering on awkwardness, try to ask more questions. Focus on open-ended questions that keep the other person talking. You’ll quickly learn that you can easily avoid awkwardness by giving certain people a chance to talk about themselves.

• Worry Less About Others

A lot of our awkwardness is born out of worry about what others will think of us. We worry that they will think we are weird, stupid, or annoying if we say something. The reality is, most people aren’t that interested in others, to begin with. Worrying about other people’s opinions will do nothing but contribute to your awkwardness.

No matter how introverted or isolated you may feel at times, we all live in a “society.” Brushing up on our social skills is vital to our success. Our era’s social and technological changes have made social skills an absolute necessity, especially in our careers. There have been studies done to try and prove this point. Research from Greece has shown how important employers and colleagues find social skills.

If you want to brush up on your social skills, focus on these nine for ultimate success.

• Empathy

Essentially, empathy is the ability to understand other people and what they are feeling. Empathy is an important skill for anyone who deals with any clients. Knowing what makes people tick can also help you better navigate the corporate world as well.

• Communication

Communication is a vital skill when it comes to success. You could be the smartest person in the world, but if you can’t effectively communicate your ideas, then no one will ever know. An important part of communication is listening, as well, so make sure you practice your active listening skills.

• Leadership

Even if you aren’t in a leadership position, this is an important social skill to have. You never know when you will be called upon to take up some sort of leadership role. Whether you work for yourself or others, you will often find yourself in a position to manage others.

• Adaptability

This skill could have easily been top of the list, especially in our fast-changing world. When it comes to social skills, adaptability means you can fit in seamlessly. If you need to take on a leadership role, you can handle it. But, if you need to play the role of worker-bee, you can handle that as well. You can accept the role needed, and you can thrive working with all sorts of people.

• Body Language

You can say a lot without ever opening your mouth. It is important to learn about body language because it is a big part of any first impression you make. Unchecked body language can lead to misunderstandings and reflect poorly on your attitude. Conversely, you can use body language to your advantage by projecting confidence.

• Positivity

Positivity might not seem like a “social” skill initially, but it can certainly help your social interactions. Being positive will attract people and helps to foster an overall enjoyable social experience. Just think about it; would you rather spend time with positive or negative people?

• Conflict Resolution

No matter what your career or business is, you will deal with conflict. Conflict is simply a part of business, and more aptly, life. Being able to navigate these conflicts and diffuse them will make a world of difference in your day-to-day life and career.

• Patience

Most of the time, our impatience runs thin because of other people. Maybe they are late, or you are waiting on a response, or you need them to finish something so you can move on with your work. Fostering patience in these scenarios is important. You don’t want to be a pushover, but you need to manage your expectations. If not, you will stress out yourself and your team.

• Affability

What is the point of working on your social skills if people don’t want to be around you? Affability is just being friendly or easy to talk to. This skill is vital for just about all of your social interactions. Being the type of person people want to spend time with can only help your journey towards success.

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are desperate to jump in and say your piece, but instead, you stew in silence? If you can relate to this, you might have trouble speaking up. This is a serious issue. If you aren’t willing or able to speak up for yourself, rest assured that no one else will either. No concerns, issues, questions, or solutions you might have in your head will ever materialize if you can’t speak up at the right time. If you’d like to be the type of person who speaks up when their best interests are at stake, please consider these nine tips.

• Know What You Stand For

When you take the time to figure out what matters to you, you will be more likely to speak up on those interests. Knowing what’s important is a good way to figure out when you should speak up versus staying quiet.

• Be Ready

If you struggle speaking up, trying to wing it at the moment is going to be intimidating. Make sure you plan and prepare yourself in advance whenever possible. If you have a meeting you know you want to bring something up, then have all your talking points ready.

• Start Small

One of the only ways to get over an inability to speak up is to start doing it. It might be too intimidating to start on a grand scale, so try and start small. An example of starting small would be speaking up in a one-on-one situation.

• Write Down What You Want to Say

Some people are much better at writing their thoughts than verbally expressing them. While you can’t hand in a paper during a big work meeting, having your thoughts written down already will give you time to practice your delivery.

• Find An Early Opening

The longer you sit in silence, the harder it will be for you to speak up. You will give your mind too much time to create a bunch of excuses why you shouldn’t. Also, finding an early opening ensures you have the time to get your point across.

• Recognize It’s Hard but Worthwhile

It doesn’t help for you to pretend speaking up is easy. Acknowledge that it will be a challenge, but realize it will be worth it. Research into “Realistic Optimism” has shown that people are more likely to follow through if they expect a task to be challenging. https://hbr.org/2011/05/be-an-optimist-without-being-a

• Your Voice Deserves to Be Heard

You have a unique voice, outlook ad understanding of things. Your thoughts and opinions are important and valuable. If you can’t accept and believe this, you will never be able to speak up for yourself.

• Stop Worrying About Others’ Thoughts

It’s perfectly fine to consider other people’s feelings before you speak. However, it’s important not to go overboard. Don’t worry about everyone else agreeing with you or looking stupid. If you have something important to say, then say it.

• Learn the Art of Diplomacy

Sometimes it’s best to be as direct and blunt as possible. Other times, it can help you to be a bit more diplomatic. The less aggressive you have to be, the easier you will find it to speak up for yourself.

When you think of strategic planning, you probably picture a room full of executives in a large corporate meeting room. While that may be valid, we can invite that same kind of strategy into our own lives. Those corporate suits are simply devising a plan to accomplish their goals. Doesn’t that sound like something that could help you right now? If you feel disappointed with your life results, consider these nine ways to live life more strategically.

• Do You Have a Plan?

What do you want out of life? Do you have a life plan? If you don’t have a plan or mission in life, it will be hard to live strategically. It might not feel spontaneous to plan out your entire life, but having an overall plan will ensure you are working towards the life you want. Plus, life is so unpredictable, there will be plenty of excitement!

• Set Specific Goals

Having an overall life plan or mission was a great start, but you also need to get specific. Set some specific goals you want to achieve. Focus your goals on both the long and short term. Remember, specificity is important. “I want to retire early” isn’t a goal. It’s a dream. A goal is: “I want to retire when I am 55, with X amount of dollars saved.”

• Ask Yourself Tough Questions

Strategic living means you need to get real with yourself. You need to ask yourself the tough questions like “Do I have the skills to achieve my goals/” “Am I wasting my time?” “Am I on the right track?” Be honest with yourself, and then figure out strategic ways to address your weaknesses or failings.

• Observe Trends

‘Trendy” is often used as a bad word, but why? Observing trends (both your own and the world around you) is a powerful tool for those who want to live more strategically. A quick example – many of us are saving for the future. How much better off would we have been had we observed and reacted to the cryptocurrency trend?

• Track Any and Everything

Strategic people track as much info as they can. After all, the more data and information you have, the more informed your decisions will be. A quick way to get started is to track your wins or successes. You might spot a pattern that makes future success even easier. Other things to track include your time, emotions, etc…

• Reflect and Adjust

While there is something admirable about those who put their blinders on and run head-on towards their goals, this isn’t always the most strategic choice. You need to make (i.e., schedule it!) time for reflection. What is working? What isn’t working? Adjust your goals to reflect this information.

• Are You Taking Care of Yourself?

Strategic living isn’t just about your career or finances. You want to make smart decisions about every area of your life. A big part of strategic living is making sure you take care of your own needs. How can you reach your life’s goals if you aren’t healthy or managing your stress?

• Communicate Your Life Plan With Loved Ones

You don’t have to go around shouting your life’s plans to everyone, but it is helpful to let the people closest to you know. This way, people will know what you are working towards, and they can make sure they aren’t working against that. It also builds accountability and creates a support system you can lean on when needed.

• Never Stop Learning

A big part of being strategic is recognizing your weaknesses or lack of knowledge and then addressing them. A wonderful way to do this is to commit to lifelong learning. This not only keeps you sharp but also keeps your skills and knowledge up to date. You will find reaching your goals more attainable when you never stop learning.

You can call it cancel culture run amok, or you can call it people being held accountable for their actions. Either way, there is no doubt we live in the era of the apology. With so many “heartfelt” apologies offered daily, you’d think you could learn a lot about how to craft a good sincere one. Not really, though…  What we have learned is how easy it is to ruin an apology. If you feel the need to offer someone a sincere apology, here are nine things you should certainly avoid:

• “I’m sorry you feel that way”

This isn’t even an apology when you think about it. You aren’t apologizing for anything that you have done. You are putting the onus on the other person. This kind of apology makes it seem like the other person did something wrong. There is no accountability here.

• ‘I’m sorry, but…”

Any apology that includes a “but” is pretty much worthless. No matter what you said before it, once you add the “but, “your apology becomes less about acknowledging you did something wrong and more about pointing fingers to justify your actions. 

• “I apologized; let’s just drop it”

While giving an apology is great, it doesn’t mean you can avoid a tough conversation about what happened. When you offer a sincere apology, you should be willing to talk about what you did wrong and why you won’t do it again moving forward.

• You are Too Vague

When you apologize, make sure you are specific about what you did. “I am sorry I hurt you” is fine on the surface, but it completely avoids addressing what you did specifically. You need to apologize for what you did, not the effect it had on the other party.

• Expecting an Apology in Return

A sincere apology is given with no strings attached. Even if you don’t feel like you were the only one wrong in a given situation, you shouldn’t apologize and expect one in return. When you apologize, you should focus on your actions, not the actions of others.

• Not Showing Remorse

You can say all the right things, but if you do it in a manner that clearly shows you don’t care or have any remorse, then your words are worthless. If you are rolling your eyes, just going through the motions, or otherwise unbothered, your apology isn’t worth much.

• Insisting on Forgiveness

An apology is just the first step towards forgiveness. You can’t apologize and expect forgiveness right after. Once you have apologized, you can hopefully move towards forgiveness, but it isn’t for sure, and it isn’t instantaneous.

• You Refuse to Listen

An apology is as much about listening as it is talking. If you don’t give the other person a chance to speak, then what is the point? Don’t speak over the person, and when it’s your turn to listen, do it actively and make sure you hear what they are saying.

• You Repeat Your Transgression

There is no single worse way to ruin an apology than by making the same mistake again. Why apologize if you aren’t going to change your actions? It instantly voids your apology, and you likely won’t get another chance to apologize.

I am sure most of us consider ourselves to be honest people. Outside of the odd white lie, we find it difficult to lie to our friends and loved ones. This makes it all the more confusing then that we find it so easy to lie to ourselves. You might have bristled at this thought, huffed, and thought, “I do no such thing!”  The nine lies below are common lies we tell ourselves. Sometimes they are harmless, but often they hold us back from reaching our goals.

• I’ll Get to It Eventually

How many times have you told yourself this, then failed to “get to it”? If you are like most of us – plenty of times! It is much better to set a specific deadline for all of your tasks. Alternatively, you could just do it now as well.

• I Can’t Escape my Past

Many of us have skeletons in our closets, or if not, trauma that we never properly dealt with. The reality is you can get over your past. Your past doesn’t define you. You might have to work a little harder or work on yourself, but you can get past your past.

• There is Something Wrong With Me

Have you ever felt like such a failure that you assume there must be something wrong with you? This a powerful lie that can hold you back from even trying to accomplish your goals. Whether you are different, struggling, or even failing, that is circumstance. That isn’t who you inherently are as a person.

• I Know Exactly What I am Doing

Self-confidence is a powerful tool in your arsenal. Sometimes it even helps to fake confidence! That said, we need to be careful not to go overboard. There is nothing wrong with being honest that you need some help because you don’t know what you are doing.

• I Would be Happy If Only…

I know it’s easy to focus on what you want or think you need for happiness, but it rarely works out that way. Even if you acquire what you think you need to be happy, you will just move the goalposts further and think about something else. You need to figure out how to be happier on your terms.

• I am Too Busy to…

While this is true sometimes, and especially true for people who are working and raising a family, a lot of the time, it isn’t. Downtime is important, but almost all of us waste time in some fashion. Take an honest appraisal of your day, and you will likely find some extra time to spare.

• I Can Change Him/Her

I bet a couple of you are nodding in agreement about this one! Many of us have this moment where we meet someone we like, but they are toxic to be around. You think that with enough love and caring, you can change this person. We always find out that we can’t. It isn’t even our job to try and change someone else. That’s on them.

• I’m Too Old To…

I heard a 25-year-old the other day say they were too old to do something. I had never felt older. The reality is, we can still do almost anything we want as we age. It’s never too late to go back to school or change career. It’s not too late to take chances. It’s never too late for you to try and live the life you dream about.

• I’m a Failure

While all of us will deal with failure at one time, that does not make us failures. Failure is something we deal with; it isn’t something we are. If you feel like a born loser that always fails, try to focus on your wins. We all have some wins in our lives, no matter how small they may seem. Also, failing is good – it is the best way to learn about yourself.

With the way things are going these days, a lot of us find ourselves spending more time alone than ever before. While some introverts may enjoy this new-founded alone time, other people are really struggling. One of the best ways to cope with these feelings of isolation and loneliness is to discover things you can do at home alone. Below you will find a list of 9 activities you can embrace when home alone.

• Pamper Yourself with a Spa Day

Not every activity you do has to be directly productive. In fact, one of the most productive steps you can take is to spoil yourself. Set some mood lighting, put on some soothing music, and take a nice luxurious bath. If that’s not your thing, find another way to pamper yourself.

• Enjoy Your Favorite Treat

While you might not want to over-indulge in your favorite treats, there is nothing wrong with enjoying yourself once in a while. A great way to brighten a dark day is to spoil yourself with your favorite food.

• Dance Like No One is Looking

Those of us who share our dance steps with Elaine from Seinfeld might not love breaking out our moves on a crowded dance floor. When you are home alone, though, no one can see or judge you. Crank your favorite tunes, and let loose with your best dance moves.

• Reflect on Your Life

Alone time is one of the best times for you to sit back and reflect on your life. You can think about what’s working and what isn’t. You can consider the things you like versus things you’d like to improve. Writing this in a journal is a wonderful habit to get into while spending some alone time at home.

• Do a Deep Clean

Cleaning isn’t exactly the most enjoyable task, but the feeling of sitting in your freshly cleaned space is wonderful. When you are home alone, you will find it’s much easier to clean because no one is getting in your way or instantly undoing the hard work you have just done.

• Read a Book

Reading a book, you have meant to read for a while is the perfect way to spend some alone time. You can give the book your full attention and escape into its pages. Don’t get bogged down by a book you don’t enjoy, though. If you aren’t captivated early, consider choosing something else.

• Practice or Learn a New Skill

Do you have any new skills you want to learn? II have heard of more people taking up things like baking and cross stitch in the past year than ever before. Are there any similar hobbies you’d like to start? What about an old hobby that you haven’t had time for? Maybe it is time to pick it back up!

• Do Something You’ve Been Putting Off

This might sound like a nightmare, but you likely have plenty of tasks around the house that you’ve been putting off. Spending your alone time addressing at least one of those tasks is sure to pay off in the satisfaction of accomplishment.

• Make a Plan

If you want to lean into something more productive, why not spend some time plotting your next moves? Use your alone time to set some new goals, envision your future, and help figure out your next few steps. Every second you put into goal-setting and planning will be paid back in the long run.

When you think of spring-cleaning, you probably think of the time of year where you go all out cleaning up your house. You know the time you move the fridge and sweep out all the nooks and crevices. What if you took that same idea, but instead of cleaning your physical surroundings, you tidied up your life? If you don’t quite understand what that means, here are nine examples that can get you started.

• Take Stock

Before you start to spring-clean your life, you should take careful stock of how you are currently doing. Do you have goals? How are they going? Are there any areas of your life you’d like to change up? Taking stock of where you are at will help you direct your energy where it’s needed.

• Clean Up Your Relationships

Do you have any toxic relationships? Maybe it is time to part ways with these people. If the people in your life don’t cheer you up, lift you up or build you up, why are they in your life anyway?

• Tidy Up Your Habits

It might be time to clean up those bad habits of yours. Bad habits add up over time and cost you in the long run. If you feel like you already do a good job of that, focus on building some new positive habits.

• Clear Your Mind

We all got a lot going on in our heads. Maybe you should take some time to clean things up a bit. Developing a daily meditation practice is a great way to clear your mind. You might also try journaling. Getting those thoughts spinning around in your head onto paper can make a world of difference.

• Unplug

Technology is great, but sometimes we need to unplug and live in the moment. Don’t be afraid to prune some of our social media accounts. Aim to spend less time on your devices and more time just taking in the world around you.

• Refresh Your Fitness Routine

Has your fitness routine got boring or stale? Do you even have a fitness routine? Why not shake things up? Spring-cleaning is all about out with old and in with the new. Find a new exercise, sport, or activity that gets you excited, and try to fit it into your daily routine.

• Sort Your Diet

A great way to tidy up your life is to clean up your diet a bit. Think about adding more natural whole foods and cut down on your guilty pleasures. Find a healthy way of eating that you can sustain.

• Organize Your Workspace

This is almost real spring-cleaning! Organizing your workspace is a great way to boost your productivity and get more excited about working in general. Reorganizing is less about cleaning and more about making sure every item has its space and every space has a purpose.

• Rearrange Your Goals

For the vast majority of people, some of their goals work out, and some don’t. This is why it’s important to adjust your goals once in a while. Figure out what is working, and double down on that. Find out what isn’t working, and figure out why. Make it a regular practice to check in on your goals.

We all deal with trials and tribulations in our lives. No matter how blessed we feel, situations will arise to challenge that. Often these problems consume us, and we feel like there is no way past them. If you have ever felt like this, then you might need a shift in perspective. The ability to recognize your problems and then properly put them in perspective is key to our happiness and productivity. Anyone can learn how to put things in perspective, and these nine tips are the perfect place to get started.

• Think Beyond This Moment

When you are actively dealing with a problem, it will take up a lot of mental real estate.  Things can seem bad at the moment. Try to take some time to think about the future. It can help you put things in perspective when you think about how much any of this will matter in ten years.

• Stop and Consider

When dealing with some issues, your feelings can start forcing facts into the background. Take some time to consider what you are going through. Think about how the event will truly affect you. Consider how bad things are. Ask yourself if there are any positives to this situation.

• Don’t Treat Your Inner Monologue As Fact

You can’t always trust that little voice in your head. Quite often, our inner dialogue tends to be overly negative. Just like you should question your negative self-talk, you should also question if that voice is blowing things out of proportion.

• What Would Your Best Friend Say? 

Whenever you are struggling to switch your perspective about something, ask yourself what your best friend would tell you. Most likely, they will have a positive spin on the situation that you have not have considered. At the very least, they will remind you that you can handle anything that comes your way.

• Get Back to Nature

Sometimes all it takes to shift your perspective is a nice walk in a quiet park. Spending some time in nature is a great way to disconnect from the minutiae, and remember there is a huge world around you. Your problems often feel small when compared to the vastness of nature.

• Spend Time Helping the Less Fortunate

Helping the less fortunate is a winning strategy all around:

• You are helping someone who needs it.
• You are going to give yourself a boost.
• It’s a good reminder that your problems might seem very trivial to other people.
  
  We can all use a reminder like that once in a while.

• Spend Some Time with Children

Spending time around children is a wonderful way to switch your perspective. It reminds you of a simpler time when your cares melted away in the face of the next adventure. Their child-like innocence and carefree attitude have a way of rubbing off on you.

• Stop Worrying About “Should”

If you require a seismic level change in perspective, forget about all the “shoulds” in the world. You don’t need to worry about where you “should” be at a certain age. Don’t burden yourself with society’s idea of what you “should” have or “should” be doing. You will feel happier if you just focus on your timeline.

• Focus on What You Can Control

If you are dealing with a difficult situation, sit back and figure out what you can and can’t control. Once you do that, shift your perspective to taking action. You know what you can control, so all that is left is for you to take steps to address those issues.